Three Things You Must Know to Change Your Life

The ability to change requires flexibility, and arrogance is not only antithetical to it, but it can cause us to miss the very purpose for which we were born. One of God’s most stern warnings in the Bible is that of steering clear of arrogance. Many people assume that Adam and Eve, the first man and woman, committed the first sin against God, but really it was lucifer, the devil, who did this. Wanting to takeover God’s Kingdom, he sinned against Heavenly Father, his Creator, through arrogance, and he was cast down from heaven. Arrogance was the first sin, and it continues to be as deadly now as it was then, perhaps even more so. Proverbs 16:18 says that a heart full of pride and arrogance leads to destruction, and Isaiah 2:11 tells us that human pride will be brought down, and arrogance will be humbled.

Being arrogant means that a person has an exaggerated sense of importance or abilities. They believe themselves to be better than others. The opposite of arrogance is humility, and spiritually, we know from the example and teaching of Christ that a person cannot enter the Kingdom of God unless they are humble. Jesus tells us in Matthew 5:5 that God blesses those that are humble, and they will inherit the earth. We also know from satan’s example that arrogance establishes the root of inflexibility and hard-heartedness. It keeps us from changing into the men and women we are destined to be. It is so catastrophic to our souls because it literally blocks the love of God from entering in or flowing out of our hearts. It is a deadly sin, a death sentence to any legacy of love a person might otherwise leave. As we continue our spiritual journey forward, arrogance should be the first remnant of darkness we release.

1-Know that you are a conduit of His Love
One of the most important truths that we must accept in order to change our lives is that we were created to be conduits of God’s love. There are many successful arrogant people, in fact, it can probably be said that they are among the wealthiest in the world, but a child of light must never, ever use material and financial wealth as a barometer for measuring his or her success. God tells us in Galatians 5:6 that our faith expressed through His love is most important to Him. We must trust God to lead and direct us in even the small things of our everyday lives. We must be purposeful and intentional in activating our faith in this. As we humble ourselves to listen and hear God’s voice, He will steer us to impact the lives of others. It may be in seemingly small ways to our mode of thinking, but it will be ordained and appointed by Him for the furtherance of His agenda in the earth.

2-Know the power of your heart and confession
God will never violate any person’s free-will choice. If He permitted Himself to do this, He would have slapped that ol’ apple out of Eve’s hand. He didn’t. He allows us to do whatever we choose. We self-govern, because we’re made in His image. At some point, we will decide that our decision making isn’t yielding the kind of life we desire, and we need to make a change. If we’re destined for glory, we’ll throw out the welcome mat and ask God to come into our hearts by accepting Jesus Christ as the owner of our lives. He will then make them brand new. We may look the same, have the same mind and same heart, but spiritually we’re brand new, and with this newness comes power!

As God’s spiritual children, we have access to the power of Jesus Christ! It is activated by believing in our hearts and confessing the truth with our mouths. He tells us in Romans 10:10(NLT) “For it is by believing in your heart that you are made right with God, and it is by openly declaring your faith that you are saved.” We must open our hearts and open our mouths to God—to trust in His Word with full persuasion and to confess what we believe. It is more than positive affirmations and confirmations. It’s speaking life! It’s saying what God says. It’s having what He says we can have, doing what He says we can do, and being what He says we can be. When this is our conviction, God declares in His Word that He will transform our lives.

3-Know that you have a destiny
Nothing about a believer’s life is random. We have a destiny—a book with our names on it, written by God and kept in heaven. Our mandate on earth is to walk within this earthly natural dimension according to what God has predestined for us spiritually. This is why He commands us in 2Corinthians 5:7 to walk by faith and not by sight, because by faith we receive the things of God. He is a Spirit, and we are His spiritual people. 1Corinthians 2:14 tells us the things of the Spirit are foolish to the natural-thinking-and-believing person, and they are cut off from receiving spiritual things from the Holy Spirit. But we can and should receive from God by faith, so that we walk in the destiny He’s laid before us.

Knowing that we are conduits of God’s love, activating the power of Christ by believing in our hearts and confessing God’s Word with our mouths, and understanding that God has an extraordinary destiny for us will change the trajectory of our lives. Wherever you are in your life, expect to go higher because God will exceed your expectations if you allow Him. Know that He’s working in you even now. Be confident that as you pray and trust Him to increase your faith, He’ll help you to create greater space in your life and heart for His blessings, and you’ll be prepared to receive all that He has in store for you.■

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Shifting Expectations

There’s a saying that you can’t get different results by doing the same things. In fact, it is believed that expecting different results by doing the same things is the definition of insanity. Picture a person totally frustrated and exhausted from continuous, unchanging effort; yet, they will not alter course one bit. They keep at it, same pounding effort without the benefit of any sign of progress. When you get a good picture of this in your mind, you begin to appreciate things like spiritual wisdom, discernment, and sound judgment; because these extend the ability to know when it’s time to change course.

Anything that doesn’t grow begins to die. We see this all throughout nature, but make no mistake, our Heavenly Father is all about bringing life. In John 10:10, Jesus Christ tells us why he came. He said the devil comes to steal, kill, and destroy, but he came to give us life; and not just life, but a more than abundant life. This is good news indeed, but many of us are so busy doing the same things that we can’t see the forest for the trees. We’re like the totally frustrated person that’s grinding it out every day without progress, because this person doesn’t recognize they’re not making any.

If the definition of insanity is expending our resources needlessly, doing the same things but expecting different results, then we must know that the ability to shift our expectations can potentially lead us in a sane or different direction. Using this logic, a person can do the same things and still be considered sane IF they don’t have any expectations for alternative results. But here’s the thing, most of us are not built to enjoy that kind of existence. We were created to grow, flourish, and blossom! God cemented this for us when He sent His Son to offer us a more than abundant life. Most of us would have been perfectly fine with just an abundant life, but Jesus went over and above this to thrust us into overdrive and blow the lid off anything we could ever ask or think. He came to give us access to a MORE than abundant life—a life that can exceed our greatest and grandest expectations! In other words, wherever we are in life, God wants us to know resolutely that through Christ we can go further.

Most of us are not insane, but we are caught in a vicious cycle of doing the same things. Some of us are even fearful of the possibility of change. One of the reasons we’re frustrated and unhappy is because we should have shifted our expectations long ago and we didn’t. The faith walk requires humility, and humility requires that we recognize we don’t have the master plan; God does. He knows best! He wants the best for us, and He’s included the best in the plan He’s designed for our individual lives. Unhappiness and dissatisfaction are very often indications that we’ve not taken a pause to consider that our way isn’t working.

All of God’s Word is extraordinary, but Jeremiah 29:11(NLT) is a particular jewel to me because it makes God’s heart and vision for us so crystal clear. He said, “For I know the plans I have for you…They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” Progress is important for all of us, but we don’t always know how to define it. God has given us life to blossom into the person He desires us to become through Christ. His plan is to give us a good future and hope. Sometimes, we don’t see the light of His plan because we’re too focused on doing the things we’ve always done. No matter how much we try to deny it, we don’t know everything, and therefore, can’t see the things that God makes so plain when we follow His directions.

Very often, it’s just a slight movement in the direction we’ve taken that will make a huge impact in our lives. Make this a stellar year. Let God direct your path. He tells us in Proverbs 3:5-6 to trust in Him with all our hearts and to stop leaning on our own understanding. He said that if you seek His Will in all you do, He’ll steer your life in a wonderful direction. Consider that you might be headed down a path that leads to more frustration and disappointment, but if you’ll shift your expectations about what is possible through Christ, and ask Heavenly Father to redirect your steps, He’ll lead you on a path that will exceed your expectations. ■

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“Shifting Expectationswritten by Fran, edited by PMB for DomesticAbuseAwareness.Org ©2018. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord!

Making Good Choices

If we give ourselves a chance to really think about life, we would find that it is built by a series of choices and decisions we make. Some of these are very difficult, and if we ultimately make the wrong choice or decision, the consequences could be disastrous. It is important to know that God only wants the best for us, and to help us make our lives the best they can be. In Psalm 32:8(NIV), He tells us I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.” God will give us directions through His written Word, through the Spirit that indwells us, and also through people that can help us when it isn’t clear what we should do.

Wise and Unwise Counsel
When it comes to counsel and advice from people, not all of it is good, and we have to be careful. There are those that are well-intentioned, but unwise; and there are those who are wise, but not well-intentioned. Unwise counselors are very often individuals that want to be right more than they want to deliver counsel that is right for you. A telling sign is that their advice will not mention God or the wisdom of His Word. God’s agenda for us is always going to be covered in truth and love, and we are well-served to place the counsel we receive from others through the scrutiny of His Word. If our choices and decisions are filtered through His truth and love; the outcomes will please Him. They will also satisfy us and benefit all concerned.

Jeremiah 17:7 (NIV) says, “But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.” Wise counselors will point to God. They will not be on a power trip and try to get you to develop a dependency on them, but will encourage you to place your trust in Him. At the very least, they will recommend the practice of prayer and be willing to guide you through it. Prayer is a powerful instrument of change, and as a spiritual person in Christ, it is always best to receive counsel from a person who prays and is intimately acquainted with faith.

The Counsel of God’s Word and Spirit
You’re a spiritual being with a soul, housed in a body. It is an extreme blessing from God to have this magnificent gift of physical embodiment, but we are not be defined by our flesh and blood vessels. The human body is a temporary structure. Once it is no longer alive, our legal right to live on earth is terminated. Our bodies return to dust, and our souls vacate the premises. We’re outta here! God doesn’t want us leaving earth before our time. He wants us to live long and prosperous lives. Earth is our only chance to become the greatest version of ourselves. It extends the greatest opportunities to learn the lessons we are destined to learn; these are lessons we desperately need.

The graveyards are full of individuals that died prematurely because they missed the chance to walk with Christ through life as long as possible; therefore, they weren’t able to live to their fullest potential. God doesn’t want this. It’s one of the greatest reasons He’s given us the gift of the indwelling Holy Spirit. 1Corinthians 6:19-20(NIV) says, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” God wanted the Spirit to live inside our body-temples because this allows the most intimate connection to Him.  And the inside of us just happens to be where we all need the greatest amount of help.

Jesus said in John 16:13 that the Spirit will guide us into ALL truth. God knows the best decisions we should make. He knows the choice that is going to benefit the lives of all involved, and through the Holy Spirit, God will guide us. But this is only IF we want to be guided. Jesus Christ instructed us in Matthew 6:33 to seek the Kingdom of God and His righteousness first. Our choice to be guided by God is evidenced through our decision to seek His Word. As we read it, the Holy Spirit will work within to give us revelation and insight in the decision-making process. Let’s be committed to making better decisions and choices. When we seek God’s wisdom in all we do, our futures will be brighter, because they will be aligned with His plan and purpose for our lives.

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What Happens When We Doubt Ourselves

Self-doubt is probably one of the greatest contributors to stress and worry. There’s an old saying which states that most of us typically worry about things we can’t control. At the end of the day, we really don’t control anything, but many people still run themselves in the ground worrying about the situations of life. It can be a never-ending cycle of trying to please others and looking externally for strength that should come from within. God wants us off this hamster wheel of insecurity and anxiety. It steals our focus from our relationship with Him and causes us to forfeit the soul work we really should be doing.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us that everything, without exception, has a season; and everything has a reason—a purpose for existing. God doesn’t deal in happenstance and ‘what ifs.’ There is no such thing as luck for a follower of Christ. We worship and adore an on-purpose God, and we understand that He has made us an on-purpose people. He tells us in 1Corinthians 14:33 that He’s not the author of confusion. He doesn’t allow ambiguity and chaos to hangout in His crib. He anchors His kids in purpose. This is good news indeed, but what if you don’t know this about God? A person can’t rise above what they don’t know or believe. So, if this person doesn’t believe in purpose or buy into the reality that they have one, they’ll most likely cast their net in the shallow soil of self-doubt and worry.

In the New Testament Book of Mark, chapter 4, Jesus Christ taught God’s people using the parable of a sower that had some seeds. As any good farmer would do, the sower spread the seeds in several different places. Jesus tells us in Mark 4:5 that some seeds fell on shallow soil that had rocks beneath it. One of these seeds did what seeds do; it sprouted. Jesus tells us that it sprouted quickly, and the reason for this is because, again, the soil was shallow. He then tells us that the seedling soon wilted under the hot sun, and since it couldn’t develop deep roots because of the stony ground beneath it, it died.

Our Beloved Big Brother goes on to explain to us in Mark 4:16 that the seed on the rocky soil represents folks who hear the Good News about all that he has made available to us, and they get happy. They receive it with joy, because it’s so different from the negativity they’re used to. They’re accustomed to hearing the wrong messages about their uniqueness, gifts, and value. “It’s too good to be true…” the devil whispers in their ears. So, as soon as trouble comes—as soon as the abusive behavior begins again, it gets too hot. They give-in to self-doubt, fall away, and don’t allow themselves to become deeply rooted in God’s love.

Jeremiah 17:8(NLT)
“They are like trees planted along a riverbank, with roots that reach deep into the water. Such trees are not bothered by the heat or worried by long months of drought. Their leaves stay green, and they never stop producing fruit.”

The seed is like us in many ways. We have more potential than we know what to do with. God has given us our purpose. It’s to spiritually grow, to be fruitful, and multiply in every good way. But self-doubt is rocks in the soil of our lives. It will only allow us to become a seedling, when God’s Will and intention is that we become a tree.

2Corinthians 9:8 tells us that Heavenly Father can pour on the blessings in ways that will blow your socks off. He wants to do this for us so that we thrive with confidence in Him, with roots that can reach water even when the sun’s heat feels too hot. We never have to doubt ourselves when our confidence is in God. So don’t give-in to negative thoughts about yourself. Instead, recognize how important you are to God and His plan, and let Him teach you about your purpose. He’ll nourish your roots if you’ll trust His Word. They’ll grow down into the Lord Jesus, and self-doubt will shrivel up and wither away.■

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“What Happens When We Doubt Ourselves” written by Fran, edited by PMB for DomesticAbuseAwareness.Org ©2018. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus

Learning to Love God’s Way

The term ‘self-government’ is used to define the rights that God has given every individual. None of us have the capacity to look into another person’s heart and know what or how they’re feeling. We don’t have the ability to know exactly what another individual is thinking. Only God knows this. Psalm 94:11 tells us that He knows our thoughts, and Psalm 139:4 reminds us that He knows what we’re going to say before the thought of it is formed in our minds. Jeremiah 17:10(NLT) states, “But I, the Lord, search all hearts and examine secret motives. I give all people their due rewards, according to what their actions deserve.” Heavenly Father knows us intimately. Even though we speak negative words that do not please Him, we think bad thoughts, and harbor feelings of resentment, anger, and all kinds of toxicity in our hearts; He will not prevent us from doing these harmful things. He will never violate our free-will choices to feel, think, speak, and do as we choose.

Jesus Christ tells us in John 14:6 that he is the way, the truth, and the life. His example provides access to God and to life everlasting. 1 Peter 2:21(MSG) says, “This is the kind of life you’ve been invited into, the kind of life Christ lived. He suffered everything that came his way so you would know that it could be done, and also know how to do it, step-by-step.” Jesus taught us that choosing a life of love isn’t always going to be the easiest choice, but it will forever be the best choice.

Every day, life presents us with choices to help us learn how to love through our Master Jesus. He demonstrated to the tee everything that God would do as a human being. He said, “The Father is in me, and I am in the Father”(John 10:38), and in John 5:19, he said that he doesn’t independently do a thing, but only does what he sees the Father doing. This is precisely how God wants us to live love, so that we will have victory and triumph in our own lives. We don’t have to know someone’s thoughts or see into their hearts, we just have to love with the wisdom, strength, and courage of God’s love.

When God chose the planet earth for our habitation and then created humanity, it was His intention that we would live in fellowship and harmony with Him. We should notice that He would not force this harmony on us, because forcing is not love’s way. He gave us freedom, and our choices could not be exempt from it. He has shown us by example that the way to govern wholeheartedly is through love. It is not a sappy emotion with no backbone. Loving God’s way is the epitome of strength and authority.

Isaiah 9:6(NLT) states, For a child is born to us, a son is given to us. The government will rest on his shoulders. And he will be called: Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” Before the birth of Christ, humanity had taken God’s plan for harmony and love and we spoiled it. In many respects, instead of benefiting from God’s great love, we found incredibly destructive ways to brake the rules. Jesus Christ was sent to earth on a special mission. He came to wake us up and reveal the Father’s heart to us. The government rested on the shoulders of Christ. This means that the highest blessing, benefit, and righteousness that could be extracted from God’s plan rested on Christ. He did not let God down, and he didn’t let us down either. He accomplished all that God required and desired him to do. Love won!

Government is control exercised over actions. Again, God didn’t give us government over others. He gave us the ability to govern ourselves, and to do it so expertly through the love of Christ that all things will work together for our greatest good. This is God’s promise. We live in an environment where many allow their emotions to govern them instead of governing their emotions. This is not the way of Christ, and it is not the way to walk in faith. God created us to reign and have authority in our own lives. Studying His Word and learning to love His way, day by day, will bring us in alignment with His purpose. It will cause us to bask in the liberty and joy that Jesus Christ made available.■

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Feeling Invisible

The first time I heard the phrase, “Complete in Christ”, I didn’t quite understand it, but I was desperate for the truth it holds. I had made the decision at a young age to become a follower of Christ, but like many people who have been abused, my brokenness was deep. Understanding the reality of being totally complete and whole presented a vision for which I had no blueprints to construct. I didn’t see it among those I loved and had done my best to honor. They couldn’t protect themselves from injury, and in my mind, they certainly couldn’t and didn’t protect me from it. My cherished ones were silent in their pain, and I learned to be as well. I made myself invisible that way.

Often, I felt left out at social gatherings and functions, as if no one thought enough of me to pay attention, or to be interested in my opinions and what I had to say. It took years before I understood that people were simply responding to my tendency to hide. At work also was my need to be validated by others. All the self-help gurus tell us to avoid letting our choices be ruled by other’s opinions. We’re led to believe that seeking validation from others will harm our self-worth. “Be happy with yourself…” they say, but this is much easier said than done.

I didn’t want to be self-indulgent to the point of fooling myself that external pleasures would satisfy an internal hunger. Call it a keen instinct or a gift from God, but I’ve always been able to discern a surface reality from that of something deeply rooted. I wanted the latter for myself. So, on my journey towards accepting the wholeness that Christ offers, one of the greatest lessons I learned is that a physical fix will not take care of a spiritual problem. This level of awareness opens a person’s eyes to what may be buried beneath years of struggling for self-appreciation.

Colossians 2:10(NLT) states, “So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority.” God tells us exactly what makes us complete. It’s our union with Christ! He also warns us in Colossians against listening to folks that’ll have us searching under every rock for a wholeness that can only be found in Christ. He tells us to watch out for people like that. They try to dazzle us with big, intellectual talk. They spread ideas that really amount to fluff, and it doesn’t get at the root of our pain, or what we truly need for our souls to be healed. Everything of God is expressed through Christ, and when we invite and accept him into our hearts, he begins to live there. His love is the magnifying glass that makes the invisible visible.

God has blessed us with a physical body, but the bounty of His blessing rests within us. Our goals are misplaced if they are to find treasures in the acceptance of others, or in an identity that really isn’t who we are. We don’t have an excavation tool that will reach as deep in our souls as the love of Christ. He dwells in our hearts through faith. Like love, we can’t see faith. It’s invisible, but the reality of it is more impactful than anything we can see with human eyes.

We feel invisible because we look to things that can be seen to make us feel relevant. Heavenly Father wants us to look to Christ and become rooted and grounded in him. Something spiritual happens when we do this. We will gain a comprehension that defines our true essence, because it brings enlightenment of the width, length, depth, and height of the love of Christ. Our faith in him transforms us, then we’ll see ourselves through the eyes of his love, and that’s really what matters.■

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“Feeling Invisible” written by Fran, edited by PMB for DomesticAbuseAwareness.Org ©2018. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord!

Quaneesha, the Dragon Slayer

Whenever the subject of anger comes up between Christians, its common to hear a rationale that goes something like, “Well, Jesus Christ got angry when he turned over the tables in the temple, so it’s okay to be angry.” Ephesians 4:26(NKJV) tells us, ““Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,” This gives us some meaningful context about the emotion of anger. We all get angry from time to time. God warns us not to allow our anger to control us, particularly to the point of carrying it with us to bed at night. The problem is that many of us not only let the sun go down on our wrath, we harbor it to full-blown deep and tormenting resentment. That’s when anger insidiously betrays us. It can explode out of nowhere.

Typically, deep-seeded anger is different from that of ordering two fast food hamburgers and finding only the buns with nothing between them when you get home. Still hungry and mildly frustrated, most of us would get over this fairly quickly. But in today’s climate, even simple mishaps and seemingly minor infractions have caused some people to go completely off. It doesn’t take much to surmise that a powder keg has been simmering underneath, waiting for an opportunity to unleash. We see a lot of this expressed through road-rage, something that was virtually unheard of some twenty years ago.

Road-rage was Quaneesha’s wake-up call. She never learned much about cleaning up a kitchen or tidying up a living space, but the one thing she keeps immaculate is her car. It’s a bucket, but it’s hers, and she cherishes that car. She didn’t think she’d ever have a car of her own because for the longest while she lacked the confidence to drive. Even after a few driving lessons, she was convinced that she’d never be able to do it. She was 26 years old when she discovered that driving wasn’t nearly as scary as she once thought, and now she loves to drive.

Her abuser used her insecurity about driving to keep her isolated, afraid, and under his control. God has given us many precious gifts. He’s given us the authority to succeed and triumph in our own personal lives, and to live them to the fullest. The one thing that He did not give us was power over another person’s free-will choice. 2Corinthians 3:17 tells us, “For the Lord is the Spirit, and wherever the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.” Liberty is a defining characteristic of the goodness of God. He’s given it to us through Jesus Christ, and in Galatians 5:1, He warns us to never again let anyone put a harness of slavery on us!

The ugliness of our own fears is that sometimes we grow dependent on others in extremely detrimental ways. We allow them to usurp the liberty and strength that God has given us.  We develop a habit of moving from fear to fear. Growth is stunted and self-confidence is compromised whenever we attempt to swap one form of bondage for another. We were created to live free.

Abusers prey upon our weaknesses and fears, and often use them to gain and maintain control over us. God tells us in Romans 8:37 that we’re more than conquerors through Jesus Christ, who loves us. I don’t care how weak or strong we believe ourselves to be, through Christ, we are always exponentially stronger than we think. Quaneesha witnessed this when her abuser and ex-boyfriend, Richard, was involved in a road-rage incident that almost cost them their lives. When it happened, he tore out of his car without any regard for his own life or her safety.  It was the wrong place, the wrong time, and the wrong people to mess with, and Richard almost didn’t survive the showdown. To save them both, Quaneesha had to drive, there was no other way.

She saw Richard in a different light. It made her face the reality that she had spent most of her life on the edge, for fear of someone else’s rage. Until that moment, she had not realized how exhausted she was with living that way. Richard had not protected her, as a matter of fact, the thought had not even crossed his mind. Rather, she protected him. Sister girl drove that night!!! She faced double jeopardy and slayed that dragon of fear and oppression. Quaneesha kept right on driving. She drove Richard out of her life and her out of his. Through our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, we’re stronger than we think, and as our trust in him grows, so will our confidence in ourselves.■

Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004, 2015 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.

“Quaneesha, the Dragon Slayer” written by Fran, edited by PMB for DomesticAbuseAwareness.Org ©2018. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord!